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Friday, June 12, 2009 { 4:39 PM }

Suddenly in the mood to blog, lol, have quite a few unpublished post about my past few days but i'm too lazy to edit nor post it =p lol but as you can see from the photos below it was a blast =p

anyway quite a while back there was this conversation about staying friends once you've broken up. i guess it's not impossible but sometimes it can be quite hard. i think of all my ex i only occasionally talk to one or two. sometimes it's no fault of mine that they dont really want to communicate and i just give up finding them to say hi on msn and such.

so back to the topic, do you stay friends once you've broken off? i guess it really depends on the reason you've broken off, how it was done and probably who initiated it. sometimes it might be a good thing to just have a break, on occasions it does make you remember why you've fallen in love with the person in the first place. other times it might just be a mistake. you end up having a moment of folly and things get awkward or worse. but i guess generally with time, it's not impossible to be friends again although it does feel a little awkward when you see someone you've loved be with someone else.

personally i've always felt it's such a shame not being able to be friends after breaking up with your other half. you weathered through storms together, technically the person knows you best and you pretty much open yourself up to that person even more than anyone else. soul mates might not be the best word but i think the essence is there.

moving on, what happens to the friends you made during the relationship? More often than not you end up making friends with the other half's friends, of course the exception will be when you were all one group of friends and then feeling started developing.

for the latter i guess it does make things awkward, friends wont know if they should invite both parties out or if feelings would be hurt if one one was invited out. sides might have to be chosen, or things would be back to before if things were handled maturely.

for the former it becomes weird i guess. does breaking up with someone means breaking up with their friends? i dont necessarily think so. personally i dont feel there's anything wrong hanging out with the friends and it doesnt really matter that they met because of the other half. what's important is that they've met and that they're friends. you can meet a hundred, a thousand, a million even friends through your other half but it does not necessarily mean that you'd become friends nor even be considered as acquitances.

i think it's the same as introducing your circle of friends. just because you fell out with group A, you've to ask group B to be on your side even through group A and B have became good friends.

anyway to set records straight, i'm not bitter over the fact of the new other half thing, i'm just bitter that i made such a mistake and i nearly fell into it again and that i even tried to protect the person, it's more of how stupid i was.

fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.