Friday, April 3, 2009
{ 4:09 PM }
So, Tsuey and I were sitting outside starbucks after work the other day and we did sit for quite some time. Then this guy who passed by us about an hour back decided to stop and ask us really random questions. How random? Totally random.
First he asked, if you were getting married, when the time comes for the groom to kiss the bride, would you give a peck on the lips or a full on french kiss. Apparently it was coz he recently went to his cousin's wedding and the groom looked like he was going to give a peck and the bride was going for a full on so it was rather embrassing. Next up, he asked if we floss our teeth, and what about brushing our teeth. Seems like recently his sharemate walked in on him when he was brushing his tongue and it amused his sharemate. Finally (i think) he asked us what's our thoughts on spells. Again recently his friend hooked up with this girl that the friend totally didnt like but somehow still spent the night on the girl's couch. Tho nothing was done, he found a letter with weird handwritings on it, grabbed it and got out of the place. When brought to a magic store, it was said that it was a love spell. The random guy hasnt seen his friend in weeks and the guy has been spending it at the girl's place. Soooo food for thought, was it due to the love spell or just psychological?
Anyway my own food for thought. Few weeks back, I had this conversation with my group mate. He said that the person you marry might not be the one you love most. I can hear the "then why did you marry the person?", "that's so unfair to your spouse" and all at the back of my head. But let's put it this way, you love the person enough to marry the person. I guess there'll be insecurity for the other half, but as my friend said, sometimes it's the timing. The timing and all was right, which is why you ended up marrying your, probably 2nd greatest love.
For me, one possiblity was that whatever happened with your greatest love might not have the chance to end properly. Sometimes as said, due to timing, sometimes due to the most idiotic reasons. Sometimes, the person remains your greatest love for this reason. You did not have the chance to know the person so much more than you should. What you're holding on might just simply be the illusion of how perfect your life might have been.
I think despite all these, it's necessary to be true to the one you marry. Despite the longings, the illusions, it should not have any chance to affect future relations especially when a child might be involved.
I've been thinking about many other things recently but I guess I'd save it for another day.
I guess no matter what, be true to yourself and your other half. Marry the one you see in your future even though the person might not be your greatest love.
Where art thou, thy romeo
